Know Your Child Workshop

In line with my goals of becoming a better mom, I attended a half-day Know Your Child Workshop last month. The goal of the workshop is to help parents deal with issues that they have with their kids by understanding the root cause. The objective is to open up the eyes of the parents to the vantage point of the kids to give them an insight about who they are and why they act as such.

It started out with the parents listing all their problems and complaints. The list of issues ranged from the kid watching too much TV, being shy around strangers, being hyper all the time, too dependent on parents or nannies, too much TV and the like.

We first parked that list on the white board and tackled the nature of a kid to better understand their psyche. By nature, they are:

1.) Naturally comfortable – They were born with a clean slate with no concept of right and wrong, what is proper etiquette and without a manual of what to do and not to do.

2.) Always HAPPY 🙂 – The seminarian cited a study that indicates a child smiles about 100x/day, teens at 19x. They are happy unconditionally and sad conditionally.

3.) Always “live in the present” moment

Keeping in mind the issues listed above and items #1-3:

Problem: They are shouting outside when they are excited, running around. You view this as the kids being hyper. In reality, they are just overwhelmed with life and are just expressing their amazement. You tell them NO, don’t do this, don’t do that. They feel restricted. In a social setting, you tell them to stop running around and just sit down.

Outcome(s):

– They become restrained when outside thus becoming “too shy”.

– They become dependent on you to tell them what to do or not to do because they are not sure anymore what is the right thing to do.

– They cannot enjoy just sitting down so they turn to electronics or TV. Then you get mad when they become too attached to the TV/iPad 😦

4.) Intelligent logically

5.) Daring little people – Unfortunately, we transfer our fears to them subconsciously.

Keeping in mind the issues listed above and items #4-5

Problem: Fear of Dogs, Swimming, Darkness, etc.

Outcome: Kids are intelligent logically. They are very observant and can sense a lot of things especially with the parents or caregivers. They are very attuned to what is happening around them.

Example 1: You are holding your child’s hand and you come across a dog. You inadvertently squeeze her hand extra tight. This very subconscious action signals to the child that the dog may not necessarily be a safe animal. The next time, the child will also tense up when he/she sees a dog.

Example 2: If the parent doesn’t know how to swim and he/she is holding the baby in a pool or beach. They will also pass on their fear to the child.

6.) Independent thinkers

Problem: They see a giant trampoline or a bouncy house and quickly scamper for it. You stop them, tell them they can’t because it’s too crowded, too many big kids, the place isn’t clean, etc. Admit it, the last reason has crossed your mind. 😉

Outcome(s): They are naturally curious, don’t care about the dirt and hey, it’s a trampoline, I want to jump and jump even if I have to be stuck in a crowded place with a bunch of sweaty kids. Not allowing them to makes them feel repressed. They are hampered by your NO. They become more stubborn due to loss of freedom or go into a shell (shyness).

Solution: (PEACE)

1.) Positive – Always take on a positive attitude when it comes to your kids and their experiences. Try to see the world in the eyes of a child and am sure all your NOs may turn into a lot of YESses!

2.) Exercise – More oxygen into the brain creates more happy moods. Happy thoughts, happy thoughts – ‘Nuf said! 🙂

3.) Ask questions – Constantly challenge and stimulate the minds of your kids. They are naturally intelligent and quite the thinkers. Don’t let their minds be stuck in a rut with just mindless TV. Engage with their minds. They’ll have all the time in the world to become couch potatoes later on when they’re older.

4.) Creative – As parents, we should always find creative ways to stimulate their minds and handle our personal issues with our kids. To each his own. No 2 kids are alike. What works for one may not necessarily work with the other. i.e. If getting a kid to drink her medicine entails a puppet show, then so be it.

5.) Ear – Always take the time to listen to the stories of your children. Ask them what they did in school and what they did after. How their day was… highs and lows. Asking about them also lets them fall into the routine or habit of telling you about their lives. Believe me, this will come in mighty handy next time when you have a secretive, moping, sulking teen in the house. Take an interest in their lives constantly so that you get to know them more. Let them help you understand why they do what they do and why they are who they are.

That’s it, pansit. I hope you can use some of these tips on your own kids. Have a PEACEful weekend y’all! 🙂

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Birthday Sentiments

It is the day after my birthday. I’m about to approach the __th marker. I don’t feel old but at the same time I do. There are a lot of things that I want to do with my life and I am rarin’ to get a go at it… but this lifetimes seems too short to finish and do everything that I want to.

Looking back, I don’t know if I’ve achieved a lot already during the first quarter of my life. I sometimes feel as if I’m too lazy to shorten my list of things to do. Some say, I have way too many things that I want to do in my life that’s not humaly possible… but if I don’t do it this lifetime… when do I? We’ll never know if I can do all that I want to… but hey, I have to try right? 🙂

For this year, the following are my birthday vows. I hope to achieve them this year so that I can shorten my life’s to-do list.

HEALTH

1.) Run at least once a week

2.) Take walks after dinner with the hubby everyday

3.) Be in bed before 1AM; wake up by 8AM; wake up by 9AM for weekends

INTELLECT

1.)  Read one magazine per week

2.) Finish a book per month

3.) Learn to read and write Business Mandarin

4.) Learn about SEO for blogging 🙂

MARKETING

1.) Commercial surf every Sunday

2.) Write more often to practice copy writing skills

3.) Read marketing and fiction literary works

PROJECT MOO

1.) Jump start my business agian this year (must get my head out off maternity leave mode)

2.) Look into the following businesses for next year (Project Woodstock, Project Squeaky, Project Twilight, Project Eat)

3.)  Store check at least once a month

4.) Surf about what’s hot around the globe every quarter

EMOTIONAL

1.) Be a good daughter – be more patient and visit mom at least once a month

2.) Be a good wifey – fight less, be more understanding, spice up love live 😉

3.) Be a good mommy – focus on helping Baby Bear with her developmental milestones

4.) Print ’em pictures!

5.) Cook something at least once a month

6.) Take at least one local trip and one trip abroad every year (stop living vicariously through others)

SPIRITUAL

1.) Pray every night before going to bed

2.) Go to mass every Sunday

BEAUTY

1.) Take a more active attitude towards physical look

2.) Brush hair everyday 😛

3.) Throw out clothes that belonged to me when I was still a teenager

4.) Buy at least once clothing article or accessory every month

5.) Start applying lip gloss with color 😛

6.) Apply moisturizer and eye protect every night

If you’ll notice there are a lot of things to do under beauty… this isn’t because I am vain but because this is the area where I don’t pay that much attention to. Maybe next time, I can graduate to wearing light make-up. All part of the grand plan of becoming a zillionnaire with attitude… and beauty to boot! Yebaa! 🙂

Happy Birthday to me!!!

Signing off…

The Birthday Girl 🙂

A Smart C+ A Day…

Last week, I blogged about my Baby Bear being down with colds and coughs here. For people who know me, I am super paranoid with sickness and I am addicted to drugs (OTC drugs that help with sickness… and not the kind that you might think) ;)! At the slightest sign of any sickness, even minor aches or pains, I am already popping a pill for instant relief… emphasis on the INSTANT! 🙂 Also, I developed allergic rhinitis after graduating from college and it was so bad that there was even an instance wherein my voice box shut down for a week. Horrors I do not wish to relive… the attack of the allergies was that bad! 😦

Lately, I have found a cure to my pill-popping addiction. Whenever someone in the family is sick or when I feel like I am about to get sick, I quickly load up on this drink. Btw, this is not a paid post or a product placement… I even doubt that the company even knows that I exist! LOL! 😀 I just wanted to share this with you because it has done a lot for me. I don’t know if it’s just plain coincidence or maybe even psychological, but whenever I drink this, it thwarts off any sickness and my allergies really do go away! 🙂 Without further ado, here is my magic potion and how it helps me…

vitamin C overload! (pic stolen from smart C+ site)

It comes in three delightful flavors – Pomelo, Lemon and Orange. My personal favorite is the Pomelo variant. This is a part of my grocery list already. Keeps my allergies at bay and as an added bonus — Baby Bear loves to play with the pink bottle — me thinks that might be her favorite color 😉

As parents, we do what we can to be healthy… if not for us, but for our kids! Hard enough to keep our kids from getting sick… even harder to be sick while they are too… or worse, being the source of why they are not feeling well! (Shudder!)

A Smart C+ a day… this is my ounce of prevention… what is yours? 🙂

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