Happy Hearts’ Day Everyone! ๐ย This time of love brings me back toย my honeymoon days. The firstย few years of newly wedded bliss makes your head feel light and takes your heart up above in cloud nine.ย They went by with a blur with so many magicalย first moments with your husband.ย The first time he introduced you as his wifeโฆ the first time someone called you Mr. and Mrsโฆ. (yes, I have even have the first wedding invite I got that said so too!) โฆ the first time that you sat in the middle of your new placeโฆ curling up with your husband and de-stressing the hectic work day by watching movies togetherโฆ playing hookyโฆ sleeping in togetherโฆ breakfast in bedโฆย these are just be a few of the many magical moments that will happen during the first years of marriage.
But sometimes, the firstย few years alsoย seemed sooooo longโฆ living together is so exciting but there are also a lot of challenges, adjustments and โgiving inโ.
Some of the adventures and challenges we faced:
1.)ย ย ย ย The Kitchen is the most challenging room in the apartment.ย Culinary skills โ zero!ย Itโs so hard to distinguish frozen beef from frozen pork, allocating space for all kitchen appliances and trying to find out just how many cooking utensils you actually need.
2.)ย ย ย ย the Bedroom (?) โ NOT! ๐
3.)ย ย ย When the in-laws come to visit and when your parents come to visit — there is always that need for the house to look well-kept and to impress.
4.)ย ย ย Household Help! Need I say moreโฆ this deserves a whole new other blog post.ย =P
5.)ย ย ย Juggling work with your married life and your social life.ย Gone are the days when you can say YES to any social event.ย Now you need to check in with your husband to make sure that heโll be okay being home alone while youโre out on the social scene with your gal pals.
6.)ย ย ย Still staying as beautiful and fun as you were when you were single. ย Ask any newly wed man what he fears the most about getting married and top box answer would always be โmy wife will let herself goโฆโ!ย A good friend of mine once told meโฆ donโt forget to fix yourself up even around your husband.ย Itโs not just because we have to please our better halvesโฆ but we feel better, look better and are happier when we take care of ourselves.
How to deal with the challenges that would come your marriage way is not about who gives in or what adjustments need to be made.ย Itโs just a simple paradigm shift of how you make things work and how to go about everyday life with another person. Below are some thoughts from otherย couples that might be a good guide to ease through the birthing pains.
1.)ย ย ย Whatever habits existed before the marriage will still be there afterwards.ย Donโt expect too much change.ย If he was a slob the night before marriage, he will be that same slob the next morning.
2.)ย ย ย Thou shalt not project yourself onto your partner and get mad if he doesnโt do it your wayโฆ be it cleaning up, cooking, washing the dishes, paying bills, etc.ย Work it out and just try to settle on who likes or doesnโt mind doing what.
3.)ย ย ย You will be exposedย to habits that will annoy the hell out of you. You can nag about everything, but that will just be a total drag โ for you and for him!ย If your husband, no matter how many times you ask him, never seemsย able to put a new toilet paper rollย in the bathroom, then itย mightย better for your sanity to just know that youโll be the designated toilet paper replacer in the family.
4.)ย ย ย Itโs not really about compatibility but rather, being respectful to your partner.
5.)ย ย ย Yes, you are a couple now, but you still need to nurture your individuality.ย Itโs OK and encouraged to have separate interests of your own.ย Discover a passion that is hidden in the depths of your soul.ย And if thatโs too deep for you, grab a purse, your girlfriend and go shopping.ย Hello, Retail Therapy!!! See a movie, get a massage, read a book and catch up on some sleep.ย Do something (except bitch at him), that will make you happy too!
These are but just some of the adventures and misadventures. So often itโs the drama that stands out in our minds, when it should beย those special irreplaceable timesโฆ those magical momentsย that make a marriage.ย Itโs the journey of making yours and mine into ours.ย Live, love and laughโฆ laugh together!!!ย ๐ Itโs so easy to get caught up in the mundane things, just enjoy each other.ย Today, take the time to go back to that happy place and do something now that you enjoy with your husband and have a good laugh.ย Happy Valentines’ Day y’all! ๐ XoXo!
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